Do you, or any of your family members or friends, have anger management issues? I know a few of those people myself and I know it is an issue for some in our society.
Spoiled rotten little chihuahua
I understand that these things start in the early stages of life and, left unchecked, can become something far more dangerous socially, as we’re witnessing with GG on the Shahs of Sunset. Besides being a spoiled-rotten, manipulative brat, GG can’t control her “in-your-face” temper.
As you recall, in the 2nd episode of the Shahs of Sunset, GG went somewhat ballistic on Anita, another invited guest of Reza’s Las Vegas birthday celebration. GG started talking smack about Anita and her choice of clothing just inches away from Anita at dinner. Anita, who is a woman of class, politely chose to ignore the conversation she was hearing. The next day at Reza’s birthday/pool party celebration, GG continued to make derogatory remarks, now about Anita’s $800 bathing suit, and Anita decided that this was no longer ok…perhaps she should confront GG telling her she had overheard the previous night’s conversation and wasn’t liking the trend. GG’s reaction was out-of-control (p.s. this is the stuff we love, so I wasn’t complaining one little bit).
Reza was outraged at how GG could, first, talk about someone else within their earshot and, second, create a scene with his guest. Reza was asking himself “Who does she think she is?” So, in this most recent episode, it was decided by MJ, a mutual friend of both GG and Reza, that Reza and GG should meet and talk about the episode in an attempt to clear the air.
GG’s response to Reza and MJ about the confrontation she had poolside with Anita was, to first, defend her actions and, deny that she was talking smack about Anita in the first place. Reza knew better.
When that didn’t work, GG then decided to share with them that she has severe, like chihuahua biting heads off kind of severe, anger management issues and has spent her lifetime in therapy. “Oh great”, they must have been thinking…”we have a wacko friend”. I know that’s what I would have been thinking.
She explains her bouts of rage as if she has an outer body experience and cannot control her arms, legs and mouth. I’ve heard that before.
I had a child who started demonstrating some anger management issues when she was a child (I won’t name names to protect the innocent). Here’s what I did…
She slammed her bedroom door, I had her door taken off. She threw her cell phone, I didn’t buy her a replacement. She trashed her room, I told her the next time I would tie her up by the arms and she would hang by a rope on the oak tree in the front of the property with a large sign that stated that this was a consequence of her poor behaviour.
She no longer has anger management issues because when she was 5 I gave her a consequence. When she was 10, I gave her a consequence, and when she was 15, she knew that her anger issues would harm no one but her.
My point…my daughter learned consequences. Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Which leads me to GG’s parents. They forgot they had a job.
We all cherish and treasure our children. Our natural inclination is to spoil the adorable little child, tell her she’s beautiful a hundred times a day, tell her we love her endlessly, give her whatever her little heart desires and much, much more and that parenting style is what turns an adorable little child into a spoiled rotten brat, which is what GG is. It’s also a sign of nouveau riche.
GG uses her explanation of “I’ve been in therapy because I can’t seem to control myself” as a very good excuse for bad behaviour.
Worse, she has now trained her friends to walk on eggshells and stand on “high alert” if she should just happen to become angry with something she can throw in her hands.
Here’s what I would do if I were GGs friends…I would have allowed her to have her little “excuse” conversation and then I would have explained to her that I simply can’t take the risk of having her in social settings with my friends, since she can’t seem to control her arms, legs and mouth. Then I would remind her every single time I was having an event that everyone will miss her and we’re all looking forward to the day she learns how to control herself because on that day she can come to the party.
My philosophy…if you want to behave like a child, then you will be treated like a child.
Grow up, GG. Your behaviour is not becoming a lady.
Your friend,
Slaming of doors. What I did was make them open and close doors repeatly until I observed the resentment melting away. Caresly break something of mine, your favorite toy went in the garbage. I raised 2 sons alone.
Sons, especially, have to be trained to control the big monster within and a good mother is able to help them understand this. WOW, amazing to have raised two sons alone and bravo to you for mustering the strength to do so. It’s such an extraordinarily difficult job to raise sons alone, without a father figure in the home.
How GG’s parents couldn’t handle this is beyond me. Therapy? This makes me believe that they relegated their parenting responsibilities onto others, as well, but this is another thing that money can’t buy.
Incidentally, I never had to hang my daughter from a tree and was thankful I never had to carry out that threat because I might have been visited by Child Protective Services! Haha.
I especially found it irritating to have GG tell Reza and MJ, that it was THEIR responsibility, when they saw her getting upset, to calm things down… BS! I agree with you, I would be telling her that until she could control herself, she was persona non grata at any party I had.. I would be willing to do things one on one as long as she was not abusive, but parties? no freaking way…
I know. When someone feels they cannot control themselves, you just don’t want this person near your friends. I hated her excuses and her seeming justification and we all know that Anita didn’t start anything. In fact, she was a polite guest.